What To Do if Your Child is Scared to Dark

What To Do if Your Child is Scared to Dark

One of the common weaknesses of children is being scared to dark. They hate darkness. They become hysterical when left alone in the dark. They even run as fast as they could and sometimes cover themselves with a blanket while trying to not care how sweaty they become just to “hide” themselves from the monsters or villains. Some parents consider this anxiety “normal.”

That may be the norm of children’s thinking, but know this: there is a reason behind that fear, something that may need parental effort, and sometimes medical attention.

Knowing the Reason Behind

To help your kid conquer his or her fear in the dark, you must know first why. “Why does your child gets scared of the dark?” That being said, several factors may influence your child’s fears. Your kid may define things that scare him, say an ugly monster under his bed or an imaginative giant scorpion that will sting him.

As a matter of fact, children’s fear in the darkness is being related psychological. Perhaps it has to do with their emotions, rather a behavior. Kids are not brave enough to express their feelings, and as a result, their mind creates something silly to convey their outlook.

For instance, your child might run rapidly to you when he is left in the dark. His mind could have created something scary that affected his emotions. But what’s really going on in his mind is his fear of you leaving him alone.

Others say that explaining to your child that the “scary” things they believe real are otherwise not. That may be a somewhat effective technique of calming your baby, but that is not always rational for the long run.

Helping Your Child

So, what can really help your child stow away his fear of darkness?
Again, it’s all about emotion. Make your child feel safe rather than putting in his mind the fear he had is not true. That way, your kid will feel being understood, cared, and loved. It will relax him and may even lessen his fear. Calm your child by making them feel secure. You can place your photographs in his room or the pillow that you use. Or just anything that resembles you. The WebMD provides more tips for parents to help child conquer fear at night.

Conclusion

Remember, there is no one your child needs more than you. So, be the parent that your child will feel secure and safe with. If the above-mentioned tips do not work, or if your child’s fear of darkness seems to get worse, it is then advised to seek medical attention.

How to Change your Children’s Behavior at School

How to Change your Children’s Behavior at School

A child can develop bad behavior at school. You may start noticing how his attitude is changing over time. Kid’s behavior can be influenced by many factors including peer pressure, communication gap, and self-confidence among many others.

Several signs show how your child is having difficulty in school. Some kids find it difficult to follow instructions in class while others do not seem to get along with fellow students. You might occasionally get called to the principal’s office due to bad behavior or perhaps your child’s grades may start to slip.

Some kids directly tell their parents that they hate going to school because they are being bullied, or maybe they do not have friends. These are just a few of the many reasons that affect children’s behavior. As parents, we need to get to the bottom of this and correct this situation as early as possible. Do not ignore this because their bad attitude may be carried over into adulthood.

Once you become aware of their disruptive behavior, you should schedule a visit to their school and have a child-behavior-at-school-copyconsultation with their teacher. Their teacher may be able to help pinpoint the reason why your child is acting badly. Make an effort to reach out to your child so you can help direct and guide their steps towards the right path.   

Here are some tips on how you can improve your child’s behavior:

Give your child encouragement and support

Reaching out to your child and making them feel loved can dramatically pull them out of their slump. Sometimes kids badly behave because they are seeking more attention and care. Some cases may show children having social problems. If so, help your child to develop essential interactive skills. 

Approach the teacher or principal 

Tell them your observation and concerns. Ask the teacher how your kid is doing in school to be able to understand the scenario more deeply. Allow the teacher to give their recommendations and suggestions on how you can improve the situation.

You can also seek the help of the school’s guidance counselor.

Become more active in school 

Immerse yourself in your child’s school activities. Participate as much as you can so you can so you can see for yourself how your child acts and behaves around his classmates and superiors. This will help you understand and evaluate the entire picture.

Observe his behavior in school

Notice how he acts in school compared to his attitude at home. Notice patterns and signs particularly at times when he is demonstrating bad conduct.

Get to the root of the problem

List down all your observations that you think causes your child to act disruptively in school. Your list can be attributed to different factors, scenarios, and people.

Create an action plan 

Once you have clearly identified the problem, come up with a plan or strategy on how you can develop your child’s attitude and behavior in a positive way. There are different ways to do this. The important thing is to try each approach and see what will work best for them.

Get the teacher involved 

Your child’s teacher can serve as your eyes and ears in case you are not around. Discuss and brainstorm strategies talk-to-the-principalwith the teacher so that you can both come up with an appropriate plan and solution. You can even ask for the input of the guidance counselor or principal.

Evaluate your child’s progress 

After testing your plan, try to assess if it is making an impact on your child. In case there is no development, try to switch your plan and execute a different technique. The key is to keep on trying. One way or another, you sure would find a solution that will work for your child. The Baby Center has provided added tips that may help parents deal with their child’s school behavior problems.

10 Tips on Developing your Child’s Social Skills

10 Tips on Developing your Child’s Social Skills

playingMaking friends comes natural for some kids but not all children find it easy to socialize. In fact, most kids need a little push and help in order to start conversing with other people. Some are shy and lack confidence while others find it difficult to develop social skills.

Social interaction and camaraderie are important factors to boost your kid’s confidence and self-esteem. As a parent, there many ways you can help and support your child. You can teach your child how to properly interact with other people and practice role-playing activities with them. This will help them enhance their social skills.

Here are 10 tips on how you can help improve your child’s social skills:

1. Ask questions – Start with asking your child questions and let them answer each. Afterwards, take turns and give them instructions to ask you questions. This technique helps your child learn to create conversations through role-playing. With consistent practice, your child will become more comfortable talking to other people.

2. Create awareness – If your child has a special condition, it is better to let other people know about their disability. This takes out the guesswork between the children or adults. Being upfront and honest about your child’s situation is important so that others can understand them more.

swimming3. Support their hobbies and interests – By supporting and encouraging your child’s interest, they become more open to interact with other children. It is recommended that you include their friends as well so they can have someone to interact with. If your kid loves to swim, then schedule a weekly swimming class with other children.

4. Seek their teacher’s advice – Set an appointment with your child’s teacher and ask about their observation. How does your child interact and connect with other students? This will help you become aware of your child’s actions in school so that you which area you can focus and improve.

5. Look for an activity – Creating fun social activities for your child will boost their interaction skills. Set play dates with other children and prepare activities to keep them engaged. Playing with other kids is a great way for them to practice their social skills.

6. Use picture cards – By using picture cards, you can teach your child to understand and relate to the different emotions shown in the cards. This will help them comprehend when a person is happy, angry, sad or bored. After every session, review what you’ve discussed so that you know if you are making progress with your child. Once they become familiar, you can advance by showing them videos.

A study was conducted to determine if TV shows such as Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood affect children’s social skills. Results show that kids who watched this show have higher empathy and can recognize emotions better, and is more confident in social situations.

7. Parallel play – This form of activity allows children to play adjacent to each other but they do not interact with each other. It is human nature to become curious of what others are doing especially if the activity interests them. Therefore, this type of play can spark your child’s interest and create interaction among kids.

8. Invite friends over – As your child’s playmates, neighbors and classmates to come to your house to play. Since your child is comfortable at home, they tend to be more receptive and approachable especially if they feel comfortable in a safe environment.

9. Be sensitive to their moods – Be observant every time your child is playing with other children. Take note of their mood swings and be aware of their temperament. If your child becomes agitated after just a few minutes then it’s best to limit their activity. This way, you can calculate and set an appropriate play time for them.

10. Select friends with a positive influence – Get to know your child’s classmates and encourage them to cultivate relationships with certain students. Keeping your child close to children with good moral standards will influence them positively.

Weekend to Do’s – Happy July 4th Weekend

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Happy 4th of July weekend! This is going to be an interesting celebration without fireworks this year I am sure there is an Iphone app for fireworks I will have to check it out. But we B’s are not going to let that stop our celebration No Sir. This last week has been an interesting test of strength, patience and passion. A brief hospital stay a change in a relationship with my best friend (a change in the best of ways, we have grown closer than ever) and a few other little life tidbits that were thrown my way yet here I sit and type with a smile bigger than most would expect. I am very happy with my life and where I am at, at this very moment!!!

With an extra day of weekend and no ‘out of town’ plans, I’m looking forward to lots of relaxation, creativity and fun in the days ahead.

I am going to start compiling a weekend of To-Do’s…….Simple little creative lists that will inspire extraordinarily joyful weekends. Make your own list share whats on your to do?!?!?

grill delicious veggie kebabs on the grill

drink plenty of water & wear lots of spf (70 to be exact)

compliment a stranger and see what happens

enjoy a new book while sitting poolside

hug my son and hold my misters hand at every opportunity given

take pictures & become a better photographer

create a playlist that inspires spontaneous dance parties; we are dancers we dance at every opportunity

roll out a blanket & enjoy the night minus the fireworks with friends

An ideal morning

The moment when you first wake up in the morning is the most wonderful of the twenty-four hours. No matter how weary or dreary you may feel, you possess the certainty that, during the day that lies before you, absolutely anything may happen. The fact that it practically always doesn’t, matters not a bit.

The possibility is always there.

I have this vision of my ideal morning – It plays out quite similar to the start of a romantic comedy.
An easy Sinatra song plays in the background. I unfold my skinny arms and legs into a looong stretch. I roll over, shut off the alarm and climb out of bed with a serene smile on my lips.  I take a refreshing shower, find the not so perfect outfit and effortlessly apply my makeup.

Make the most out of your morning, I just did!! :))

Clothing that is never out of season

Look outside your window. Does nature not look beautiful. Does the grass not flow endlessly? And in the morning does it not make your feet sing just by touching them? Those flowers, do they not pleasure your nose in an oh so wonderful way? Does that waterfall not please you ears, and calm your mind? … I thought so.

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I’ve always regarded nature as the clothing of God.